Divorce can be an incredibly challenging experience, stirring up feelings of despair, anxiety, and loss. Families often face emotional distress, separation from children, and financial difficulties during this trying time. According to the Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale, divorce ranks as the second most stressful life event, just behind the death of a spouse.
In a touching example of hope amid adversity, a Reddit user known as stefanfection shared a heartwarming letter from his daughter that has brought him comfort during his difficult divorce. “I’ve been having a tough time with my recent divorce,” he posted on the MadeMeSmile forum. “This morning, I received this letter from my daughter. It means a lot to me, especially since I’ve just gained custody of her.”
He included a photo of the letter, which read:
“Hey Dad, I know you are going through a hard time right now and I just want you to know that I will be here for you forever & always. I hope you become happy again because I would love to do a ton of fun things with you in the summer. I love you tons & just remember that… I will always be here for you.”
The post garnered a flood of supportive comments from the Reddit community. One of the most popular responses came from Icouldusesomerock, who wrote: “She loves you more than words can express. You’ve done a fine job, sir—keep it up.”
In his response, stefanfection expressed his gratitude: “Thank you, I try my best, and so does she. It feels good to hear that from you.”
Some commenters, who had experienced divorce themselves, cautioned Stefanfection about not placing undue emotional burdens on his daughter. “Remember to tell her it is not her job to take care of you, even as you appreciate just how much she loves you,” advised mmlperiwinkle.
Tofuandsardines shared their concern: “As a child who lived with unhappy parents who made me their emotional ‘caregiver,’ I found this a bit distressing. This seems sweet on the surface, but letting a child feel responsible for a parent’s emotions can be devastating.”
In response, stefanfection assured that he had not imposed any additional emotional responsibilities on his daughter and that they were both attending therapy. “I have discussed this with her. We are going through therapy and using all the necessary tools we need,” he clarified. “Although we do things together and I try to make it seem like everything is okay, she can sense the hurt. It’s just part of life.”
Others reminded the father that summer vacation offers plenty of opportunities for memorable activities with his daughter. Redditors even shared lines from the theme song of “Phineas and Ferb” to celebrate the potential for fun:
“There's a hundred and four days of summer vacation
And school comes along just to end it
So the annual problem for our generation
Is finding a good way to spend it
Like maybe
Building a rocket or fighting a mummy
Or climbing up the Eiffel Tower
Discovering something that doesn't exist
Or showering a monkey”
This heartfelt post underscores that even in the darkest times, there are kind individuals who can help shine a light. For Stefanfection, his daughter’s support and their shared journey through therapy are crucial steps toward healing. According to Psychology Today, up to 33% of children face behavioral issues following a divorce, including academic difficulties and mental health challenges.
Clinical psychologist Patricia P. Martin emphasizes the importance of professional support for both parents and children during this period. She suggests that children of divorce should have at least two or three sessions with a mental health professional to address their emotions and screen for potential problems.