Dads often aren't the first choice for emotional support—that role usually falls to moms. Fathers are frequently seen as practical problem-solvers who emphasize resilience and stoicism. While these approaches have their merits, they might not always provide the comfort needed during tough times.
However, there are stories of fathers who defy these stereotypes with remarkable empathy. Such moments can heal wounds for those who may not have received this kind of support from their fathers.
A notable example is the story shared by Fallon Thompson, who posted an emotionally touching text message from her father after a breakup. In her video, Thompson described how her father witnessed her partner ending their relationship in the driveway and then sent her a reassuring message.
Her father’s message began with a reflection on his own experiences with heartbreak, drawing from his varied relationship history—from fleeting encounters to serious relationships—until he met Thompson's mother.
He wrote, “Hey baby girl… here’s some perspective from your old man. I’ve had many relationships, from one-night stands to serious commitments, and then I met your mom.”
He continued, explaining that the current difficulties were part of a necessary journey toward understanding what a truly right relationship feels like. “What you’re going through now is essential for you to eventually recognize when you’ve found the right person.”
In a compassionate touch, he encouraged her to appreciate the lesson learned, without belittling her pain. “When someone tells you that you’re not right for them, remember that they’ve returned to you the most valuable thing—your time. Be thankful that your life remains yours and hasn’t been wasted on someone who didn’t fully want you.”
The message then took a poetic turn with a metaphor involving cows and bulls. He compared cows, who avoid storms and end up suffering longer, to bulls that face storms head-on, experiencing initial discomfort but emerging stronger once the storm passes.
“Be the bull, and face your storm,” he advised. “Embrace the challenge and let it strengthen you. You’re resilient, and soon you’ll find peace and continue on your path with your time still intact. Love, Dad.”
This touching message not only provided solace to his daughter but also resonated with many others. Comments like “Tell your dad thank you on my behalf, I needed that” and “Your dad just healed a part of me” reflect the widespread impact of his words.
Scott, Thompson’s father, shared with BuzzFeed why fathers must be emotionally supportive. “To the dads out there: Be present and engaged in your daughters’ lives. They face challenges that are often more intense than we can imagine. Supporting them through both triumphs and struggles is vital. The world can be tough on our girls, and our support helps them grow resilient and independent. Embrace them, be vulnerable, and express your love often.”
Research highlights the significant role fathers play in developing their children’s emotional resilience. While not all fathers may actively engage in this role, witnessing such emotional support in other relationships is profoundly impactful. Thanks to fathers like Scott, who demonstrate the powerful effect of a father’s love.