Every group of teens seems to have that one house where the “cool parents” let everyone hang out. This spot typically features a judgment-free atmosphere, loads of snacks, and a teen-friendly hangout space like a garage, living room, or basement.
There are two main types of parents who enjoy hosting teenagers. One type believes in letting the kids drink and party at home because, as they say, “they're going to do it anyway, so why not here?” The other type appreciates having kids around to keep them from getting into trouble.
Recently, Jeremy Serrano, a Lutheran pastor from Northern California and father of three kids aged 12, 15, and 17, gained popularity on TikTok for his insights on why parents should aim to be the house where teens want to gather.
“I was chatting with another parent who asked me, ‘Why do you have so many teenagers at your place?'” Serrano explained in a TikTok video. “We've made a concerted effort to be the house where my children's friends enjoy hanging out.”
The Serrano home is a teen's dream, filled with snacks and equipped with an ax-throwing target, basketball hoop, and trampoline.
“My wife and I always ask our kids’ friends what snacks and drinks they prefer, ensuring we have those available for them,” he mentioned in the video.
Serrano believes this approach has been one of their best decisions, as it allows them to connect with their children's friends and ensure they feel comfortable hanging out there.
While the environment is relaxed, it’s important to note that the Serrano household maintains clear boundaries. “We don’t allow any illicit partying,” he told Today. “If I didn’t set limits, I would lose credibility with my children.”
The TikTok post resonated with many, with numerous commenters recalling their own experiences of growing up in a similar environment.
One user noted, “My mother-in-law once told me… food, drinks, and activities are always cheaper than lawyers, legal fees, and therapists.” Another remarked that their mother lost not just one son but multiple when they went to college because of their welcoming home.
Serrano expressed that the openness he fosters makes it easier for teens to approach him for advice. “I felt honored when my kids directed their friends to me for help,” he recalled. “I tell them they can share our conversations with anyone, but I won’t breach their trust. If their parents ask, I’ll redirect them to their kids.”
After his initial post went viral, Serrano shared a follow-up video with tips on how to create “that house.”
He emphasized the importance of being a non-judgmental presence and actively listening to the experiences of teens. “Getting to know their perspectives is crucial,” he advised. “Don't label what they say as ‘good or bad'; just listen and be there for them.”
Ultimately, establishing “that house” is about fostering a positive environment for the entire family. “It allows us to be engaged in our children’s lives and offers a safe haven amid the chaos of the world,” he concluded.