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Mom’s Attempt to Find a Friend for Her Son with Down Syndrome Took an Unexpected Turn

Christian Bowers, who has Down syndrome, is from St. Charles, Missouri. He was known for making friends during high school. However, he struggled to form new friendships after graduating and leaving the familiar school environment. The situation was further compounded by his siblings frequently hosting friends at home.

“Christian would watch his older sisters enjoy sleepovers and parties while he spent time alone,” his mother, Donna Herter, recounted Today. Six months after his graduation, Bowers repeatedly asked his mother, “When are my friends coming over?” and she found herself at a loss for how to answer.

Unsure of how to help her son, Herter faced the challenge of finding companionship for him. Recognizing that she couldn't force adults to befriend him, she tried a different approach: she offered to pay someone to spend time with him.

In a Facebook post, Herter explained, “I’m seeking a young man aged 20-28 who would like to earn some extra money. I need someone to spend two hours twice a month with my son, playing video games with him. He’s 24, has Down syndrome, and doesn’t have friends his age. You won’t be alone with him; either I or his grandfather will be present.”

She emphasized that the person would be paid and that her son would not know they were compensated, as she wanted to ensure a reliable presence for him.

The response was astonishing. Since her post went live on February 2, it has garnered 26,000 comments and nearly 60,000 shares, with the reaction being largely positive. Herter has been busy managing a social calendar full of playdates for her son.

“I continue to receive messages and am adding more dates,” she shared with KMOV. “I’m thrilled for him; he’s never been this happy in years.”

The community's support extended beyond social visits. Police officers visited Bowers for pizza, cookies, and video games. Billy Mayhall, founder of STL Youth Sports Outreach, coordinated with donors to provide Bowers with a new 65-inch television for his gaming and St. Louis Blues tickets.

“That was a moving post,” Mayhall told KMOV. “It highlights the need for companionship for children with special needs, just as we all need it.”

According to Herter, her son’s schedule is filled with activities through July.

This story is a testament to a parent’s dedication to their child and the power of community support. Herter’s willingness to seek help openly for her son’s happiness ultimately resulted in a heartwarming response from those around her.

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