Choosing a baby name is one of the first big decisions parents face, and it comes with a lot of considerations. A name can be meaningful, unique, or trendy. However, one of the most debated aspects of naming is when it’s okay to use a name that someone else—especially a friend or family member—has already chosen for their child.
While parents have the freedom to name their babies as they please, there are unspoken social guidelines about naming. For example, it might not seem as appropriate to choose a name if you know a sibling or close relative has plans for it. But what about when a casual acquaintance picks a name and you happen to like it too?
One woman’s experience sparked a discussion when she shared a story on X (formerly Twitter). She had complimented a family friend on their baby’s name, saying she might use it for her future child. However, the man texted her, saying his wife was offended, accusing her of “stealing” their baby’s name. The woman defended herself, explaining that she wasn’t even pregnant and that naming a child can’t be “stolen.”
Many found the reaction exaggerated, especially when the name wasn’t particularly unique. For example, if you choose a name like Emma, it’s unlikely anyone would claim you copied it, given its widespread popularity. In some families, multiple generations share the same name, and it’s often not an issue. One commenter shared that their family had numerous Davids, while another mentioned a Catholic family where both the first and last children were named Patrick. Despite the initial surprise, these families seemed fine with their naming traditions.
But what if the name is more unique? For example, what if someone named their child something distinctive, like “Marikenzley,” and another person wanted to use it? Most agreed that while it might feel odd at first, people usually get over it. In time, even uncommon names become popular or duplicated, and no name remains entirely exclusive forever.
As for the woman whose comment upset the family friend, opinions were split. While some thought the husband’s reaction was unreasonable, others acknowledged that new mothers often experience heightened emotions, so a little patience and understanding might be needed.
Ultimately, no one “owns” a name, even if it’s rare. If you give your child a unique name, there’s a good chance they’ll be flattered if someone else chooses it later. It’s a sign that others admire your taste, and in the end, everyone should have the freedom to pick whatever name resonates with them.